"kind of makes me feel complicit in the stigmatization"
Ah, yes, therein lies the rub. I prefer to think of myself as being a victim of the evil patriarchy, and I feel I should get some credit for refusing to actively participate. Being aware of the damage the media and society does to our vision of ourselves doesn't really fix the problem, though it's a start. I don't know how to fix it. I liked cesperanza's idea that all the time we spend reading is time doing what we want and thereby taking away from time we could be spending taking care of other people's needs. Sounds like a good excuse to me.
I've witnessed people throwing themselves through all sorts of logistical hoops trying to justify why we write about men, and I'd like to believe there's a good excuse, but I find that what I want to believe hardly ever really changes reality. I do think that women tend to agonize over stuff where guys would just be like, whatever, I like it and that would be good enough. Women are always feeling that what they enjoy needs to be justified, needs to be a good thing or positive or whatever. I don't think most men have that feeling. I'm speaking of general gender differences here.
I'm pretty close to 100% with everything you've said. Yes, definitely Blair tops Jim. I've been a little disappointed in Season 3 so far; it seems to me like they stepped back a bit and have written some boring eps. The whole guide/sentinel thing is such a gold mine to me and the writers seem not just unwilling to explore it but completely oblivious to it most of the time.
Are you familiar with Starsky and Hutch? I have the season one dvd and I've just started watching it. I watched years ago when it was first on and I remember finding it extremely slashy then, so i have high hopes for it.
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on 2008-01-15 12:38 am (UTC)Ah, yes, therein lies the rub. I prefer to think of myself as being a victim of the evil patriarchy, and I feel I should get some credit for refusing to actively participate. Being aware of the damage the media and society does to our vision of ourselves doesn't really fix the problem, though it's a start. I don't know how to fix it. I liked cesperanza's idea that all the time we spend reading is time doing what we want and thereby taking away from time we could be spending taking care of other people's needs. Sounds like a good excuse to me.
I've witnessed people throwing themselves through all sorts of logistical hoops trying to justify why we write about men, and I'd like to believe there's a good excuse, but I find that what I want to believe hardly ever really changes reality. I do think that women tend to agonize over stuff where guys would just be like, whatever, I like it and that would be good enough. Women are always feeling that what they enjoy needs to be justified, needs to be a good thing or positive or whatever. I don't think most men have that feeling. I'm speaking of general gender differences here.
I'm pretty close to 100% with everything you've said. Yes, definitely Blair tops Jim. I've been a little disappointed in Season 3 so far; it seems to me like they stepped back a bit and have written some boring eps. The whole guide/sentinel thing is such a gold mine to me and the writers seem not just unwilling to explore it but completely oblivious to it most of the time.
Are you familiar with Starsky and Hutch? I have the season one dvd and I've just started watching it. I watched years ago when it was first on and I remember finding it extremely slashy then, so i have high hopes for it.